Therapy for Relationships
Therapy that focuses on relationships is intended to explore the dynamics with the people in one’s life. This can include friendships, romantic relationships, familial ties and sometimes even the connection that is felt with oneself.
We know that the quality of one’s relationships is an essential part of well-being and we’re here to unpack and examine this with you.

Therapy for Relationships

Therapy that focuses on relationships is intended to explore the dynamics with the people in one’s life. This can include friendships, romantic relationships, familial ties and sometimes even the connection that is felt with oneself.
We know that the quality of one’s relationships is an essential part of well-being and we’re here to unpack and examine this with you.
Common Challenges Within Relationships
Connection with self and others is one of the most important aspects to a person’s well-being, and often gives meaning to life, so it’s especially important to be able to distinguish when the quality of your relationships could use some extra attention.
Some indicators that it’s a good time to get support are:

A pervasive sense of loneliness, even when with others.
Difficulty with communication and increased conflict in relationships.
Betrayal as defined by stepping outside of the agreed upon boundaries of your relationship.
Asking big questions about cohabitation, marriage, starting a family, separation, or divorce.
Avoidance of vulnerability, fears of abandonment, sexual dissatisfaction.
Common Challenges Within Relationships
Connection with self and others is one of the most important aspects to a person’s well-being, and often gives meaning to life, so it’s especially important to be able to distinguish when the quality of your relationships could use some extra attention.
Some indicators that it’s a good time to get support are:
A pervasive sense of loneliness, even when with others.
Difficulty with communication and increased conflict in relationships.
Betrayal as defined by stepping outside of the agreed upon boundaries of your relationship.
Asking big questions about cohabitation, marriage, starting a family, separation, or divorce.
Avoidance of vulnerability, fears of abandonment, sexual dissatisfaction.

“There is no greater source of joy and meaning in our lives than our relationships with others.”
— Esther Perel

Our Approach To Relationships
At Resilient Self Therapy, we work with couples who have encountered rough patches as well as individuals who want to improve the quality of their interpersonal relationships. Our team brings an empathic, insight-oriented approach to help clients be more present and increase their sense of connection.
In our couples therapy, we use Emotionally Focused Therapy to help you understand the patterns and attachment styles that shape your relationship. By disrupting negative interactions through de-escalation and building on positive interaction patterns, we guide you toward healthier, more fulfilling connections.

Our approach to Relationships
At Resilient Self Therapy, we work with couples who have encountered rough patches as well as individuals who want to improve the quality of their interpersonal relationships. Our team brings an empathic, insight-oriented approach to help clients be more present and increase their sense of connection.
In our couples therapy, we use Emotionally Focused Therapy to help you understand the patterns and attachment styles that shape your relationship. By disrupting negative interactions through de-escalation and building on positive interaction patterns, we guide you toward healthier, more fulfilling connections.
Common Questions about Relationships and Couples Therapy
I’m not in a romantic relationship, but am curious about how I relate to others, is this for me?
We welcome people at all stages of relational considerations. Whether you’ve never been in a romantic relationship, have had many relationships, have experienced break-ups, have been in a committed relationship for some time, or find yourself longing for more connection with others, coming to therapy to explore yourself as a relational person can be not only helpful, but life changing.
Do I need to know what I want out of couples therapy?
The short answer is no! Many people come to couples therapy unsure of how they feel, let alone what they want out of therapy or from their partner. We can figure that out together.
What if only one of us wants to come?
It’s a really difficult feeling to be alone in wanting to come to couple’s therapy. You are, however, more than welcome to start the journey on your own and begin exploring how you fit into the patterns in the relationship. Some of the earlier sessions in couple’s therapy will usually be one-on-one anyway, so this can be a good opportunity to start that process.
I don’t really want to come to therapy, but my friend, roommate, partner suggested that I should. Any advice?
We encounter this a lot! Our take is that this can be a very hard moment in your life to confront and that it’s fortunate to have someone in your life who cares this much about you. We suggest you take a moment to slow down with yourself and suggest that you try and connect with the part deep within you that got you as far as reading this. Does that part feel brave enough to give it a try?
People I know have gone to couples therapy and then split up. Is that going to happen to us?
This one is really hard. The idea of breaking up is a huge fear of many people coming to therapy. Couples therapy gets a bit of a bad rap because sometimes couples do break-up, especially if they come as a last ditch effort to save their relationship. The thing is we, as therapists, want the best outcome for your relationship. While you can come back from that breaking point, it’s much easier if you come early and so we can get to the root of the issue to solidify your relationship before you’re at the brink.
Common Questions about Relationships and Couples Therapy
I’m not in a romantic relationship, but am curious about how I relate to others, is this for me?
We welcome people at all stages of relational considerations. Whether you’ve never been in a romantic relationship, have had many relationships, have experienced break-ups, have been in a committed relationship for some time, or find yourself longing for more connection with others, coming to therapy to explore yourself as a relational person can be not only helpful, but life changing.
Do I need to know what I want out of couples therapy?
The short answer is no! Many people come to couples therapy unsure of how they feel, let alone what they want out of therapy or from their partner. We can figure that out together.
What if only one of us wants to come?
It’s a really difficult feeling to be alone in wanting to come to couple’s therapy. You are, however, more than welcome to start the journey on your own and begin exploring how you fit into the patterns in the relationship. Some of the earlier sessions in couple’s therapy will usually be one-on-one anyway, so this can be a good opportunity to start that process.
I don’t really want to come to therapy, but my friend, roommate, partner suggested that I should. Any advice?
We encounter this a lot! Our take is that this can be a very hard moment in your life to confront and that it’s fortunate to have someone in your life who cares this much about you. We suggest you take a moment to slow down with yourself and suggest that you try and connect with the part deep within you that got you as far as reading this. Does that part feel brave enough to give it a try?
People I know have gone to couples therapy and then split up. Is that going to happen to us?
This one is really hard. The idea of breaking up is a huge fear of many people coming to therapy. Couples therapy gets a bit of a bad rap because sometimes couples do break-up, especially if they come as a last ditch effort to save their relationship. The thing is we, as therapists, want the best outcome for your relationship. While you can come back from that breaking point, it’s much easier if you come early and so we can get to the root of the issue to solidify your relationship before you’re at the brink.